Steven consults with parents, businesses, individuals and attorneys about managing problematic people.
Difficult People
Steven has a unique understanding of the types of people who create needless problems and drain you dry – people he calls Emotional Predators – and uses effective strategies for managing them.
Difficult Opposing Counsel
Steven offers a new psychological paradigm for understanding troublesome opposing counsel and concrete strategies to deal with their provocations and avoid common, but natural, missteps in responding.
Custody Evaluations and Co-parenting
Steven has extensive experience with custody evaluations and related family court processes. He consults with parents undergoing a custody evaluation to help them present their perspective in a clear, organized way – and to avoid common mistakes.
What Clients Say
DS & RS
Before we hired Steven, we'd spent $68,600 on lawyers and $13,800 on two other mediators over 16 months, and got worse fighting. Steven stepped into a totally impossible mess of hatred and mistrust that we'd bought with all that money, and he turned it completely around. Got us in agreement. And he did the impossible for less money than either of the other…mediators took from us…
RF
Steven I just want to say “thanks” because you have always been very helpful. … I’d like to meet with you consistently for a long time because you’re very good at what you do.
BG
We salvaged our [business] partnership! Unbelievable! Steven saved us tens of thousands of dollars and months of stupid legal wrangling.
NA
That's what I love most about you: You don't say shit you don't mean.
SV
Many have helped, your help stands out…I learned a lot in this process.
PD & VD
We used several well known arbitrators over a few years before we found you. You were the first person involved with our situation who really understood what was going on beneath the surface and you had what it took to hold the line and get us to peace. We wish we’d found you at the start.
ST
Steven Wolhandler is phenomenal at what he does. He's in Boulder; you might want to give him a call 720 270-0070. He can help you bring some perspective on what your boundaries are and how to keep your boundaries set.
BM
You pack a lot of good stuff in a couple of hours. thanks. The elephant is off my back.
NA
I find you useful. You have a genuine way of seeing through and cutting through the bullshit. And you do it gently - a gentle way of verbalizing it so people can hear.
EE
You're great at what you do!
DFC
The best thing I've ever done was to sign you on as our mediator/arbitrator…you cut through all the self-serving crap of family law experts and put that whole system out of work. No more tension. No more nastiness. No more useless experts.
BT
Steven knows how to get to the root of a problem. His keen and deep observations allowed me to clear away the irrelevant and find a path that honors all concerned.
LS
You are good. You are really good. If [my choices were only to meet with] the other "professionals" I would not be going to see anyone.
EG
Thanks so much for your help over the past month. We have all benefited from your perspective to tap into the wisdom we own but weren't accessing.
SM
You were sensitive and insightful. Mediation wasn't super easy for me but it was so much better than the times we'd slugged it out in Court. I had no idea it could do that. Even my lawyer was impressed.
KC
I'm really glad you were able to get us to settle in a way that we can actually keep doing business. Thanks for helping us re-establish our business trust and respect.
TA
You took an impossible situation…and turned it around. I don't know how you got that [guy] to get real, but you did and you saved both of us from the train wreck lawsuit he was dragging us into. I'm blown away by what you did! He even said he was glad you'd set things straight
RM
A pin-headed guy who hires someone else to change his light bulb would have missed the point - or cost us a freakin' fortune to figure out what the hell was really going on, what this whole damn project was about.
DH
I sure didn't like everything you said, but you were fair and the things you recommended us to do are going to make things better. Thanks for taking the time to look at everything.
JO
Well, the evaluation is clear. It gets right to the bottom of everything and explains why there's been so much problem.
TT
It was thorough and complete. It didn't shy away from the hard truth. It named stuff that everyone else has been too scared or too blind to name.
FS
I thank you so much for all of your guidance and good advice, Steven. Your straight talk and honest feedback really led us in the direction of happiness that – at the time – I still didn’t have the courage or insight to realize both B and I deserved.”
DS & RS
Steven stepped into a totally impossible mess of hatred and mistrust that we’d bought with all that money, and he turned it completely around. Got us in agreement. And he did the impossible for less money than either of the other clueless mediators took from us